6 Quick Tips to Mom for a Successful Mother-Son Dance

Dear Mother of the Groom,

How proud you are! It seems like only yesterday you were changing his diapers and now look at him, your handsome little boy has become a strong man, who is about to get married. Yes you will always be there for him and yes there is a new woman in his life, but before you give him to his beautiful bride, there is one more tradition you must take care of…the mother-son dance!

Whether you have never danced or been dancing forever, and even if your son has two left feet, here are 6 great tips to help all moms create a fun and memorable mother-son dance.

#1. Choosing the Right Music

This can be very challenging. A lot of times people choose music for the wrong reason. They select what they think others would like or the song they think is appropriate for dancing. This can be a huge mistake! You will be dancing with someone special, so the song should be something special.

If you are tasked with the responsibility of choosing music, select three songs you love, songs that remind you of your relationship. When deciding on songs be sure they represents the personality of your son and you. Ultimately the song you pick should be something you both agree on. Remember, pick the song and the dance will follow, there is a dance you can do to any type of music!


#2. How Long Should the Dance Be?

This is a great question because on the big day all bets are off. It is very likely you will be a sobbing fool all day and more than likely you will not be able to stop the water works for the dance. So, instead of crying out of control for the extended version of “You raise me up” –by Josh Groban, take your song to your DJ, or in some cases your dance instructor, to edit to the appropriate length. The ideal length for any mother son dance should be about 90 seconds to 3 minutes tops. Even though your favorite six-minute song seems like a short amount of time, it can feel like an eternity in front of your friends and family.


#3. What Should I Wear to My Lesson?

Don’t worry you will not need to wear your mother of the groom dress to every lesson. However for practice, what you should do is wear something that will be similar to the attire, in style and length, that you will be wearing on the wedding day, and this includes shoes. The last thing you want is to be surprised by a wardrobe malfunction.


#4. Know Your Dance Floor

It’s good to be prepared for anything! Call the venue to get the dimensions of the floor. This way your dance teacher can prepare you to dance within the set floor. If you have the opportunity, give it a try at the venue so you can get a feel for the floor under your shoes as you dance. Being aware if the floor is tacky or slippery ahead of time is something you wouldn’t want to be surprised with on the day of.


#5. How Do We Make the Dance Look Good?

This is simple. You may not have a clear vision of how the dance should go, but you know how you want to feel and how you don’t want to feel. So whether you want a fully choreographed routine with 3 acts, a fog machine and pyrotechnic highlights at the end or a simple yet heart-felt dance with your son, your dance instructor can help.

Be open and honest with your instructor because whether you are easy going or very particular, they can work to find the perfect outcome for your son and you on his big day.


#6. The Moment You’ve Been Preparing For

For the mother-son dance, most moms are crying. Some cry to the point where they don’t remember the song, don’t remember where to be when the music starts, don’t remember any of their dance training, and most likely don’t remember anything they read in this guide. But if you start learning early and building that dance connection with your son, all will be okay. Even though your mind cannot think clearly, the time you put into training your body will pay off! You and your son are sure to look stunning as you move around the floor.

Remember this moment only happens once, so the most important thing is to have a good time. The mother-son dance will be one of your biggest responsibilities for the day and by using these 6 tips it can be a lot of fun, and more importantly a great memory!